“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t”. Steve Maraboli
Ok so living in the Now, going with the flow and not resisting life are things I try to live by every day. The flip side to this is that I do like order, routine and stability. Hey I’m a Taurus, it’s not my fault, I am pre-programmed to dislike change.
I think it is natural to want to feel some sort of control over our own lives, to be the driver of our own bus as it were, and to an extent we are.
We have the right to free choice which we exercise every day. This morning I changed my mind twice before settling for porridge for breakfast for example. What about the biggies though? The things we would change if we could?
When my pain and mobility levels take a drastic turn for the worst as they sometimes do, this is something I can now handle really well. I am just let it be. Not fighting the way I feel, getting frustrated or pushing myself too hard. I recognise is just a temporary state and I will probably improve again. There is a chance I may get worse though, who knows? I certainly don’t and won’t spend my days analysing if I have done something to cause this and living out possible scary scenarios in my mind.
It is harder when my children have problems, it’s difficult not to be swallowed by the jaws of anxiety. I want to stamp my feet, have a good cry and make things different. I want them healthy, happy and enjoying all that life has to offer. If I give into these feelings though, let them consume me, all I will change is the energy of our whole household, and not in a good way either. So how do we dispel these unhealthy urges?
Meditating is what keeps my mind clear. I can let the thoughts, whatever they may be, pop into my head and then let them drift away. I guess, to an extent, I treat my mind like a naughty child. If it misbehaves I don’t put my attention on it. When it behaves in a more positive way I am happy to focus on the way I feel.
After a meditation I feel calmer, energised and happier. I know I am not affecting my children with any negative energy as they easily pick up on the way I feel, thus their challenges pass quicker. It’s such an invaluable tool, easy to do anywhere and breaks the cycle of chatter that can be detrimental to my emotional well-being.
There are many things, we can’t, with the best will in the world influence, but we can choose to change the way we feel about them. Now, back to things I can control. Hmmm, now what to have for dinner?