The Happy Starfish

Living Mindfully & Celebrating Health, Happiness & Peaceful Living

When opportunity knocks, do you have to answer?



“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” Josh Billings

Recently I have had an amazing opportunity pretty much fall into my lap and when the door of opportunity opens, you should jump through before it swings shut again right? Well, no. In my case it was more tentatively shuffling through with my hands over my eyes, not convinced it was the right thing at all.

I gained some clarity today whilst talking it through with my teacher and mentor Shamash Alidina. “Saying no to something”, he wisely told me, “is saying yes to something else. If you don’t take this one, other opportunities will come”.

Of course it can be scary turning down a surefire thing (especially financially) but I had momentarily lost sight of one of the Dalai Lama’s 18 rules for living, the 3 R’s.

Respect of self. Respect for others. Responsibility for all your actions.

As grateful as I am for this opportunity, and no matter how many people tell me I am lucky and should go for it, I know in my heart it is not the right thing for me.

So, I am honouring myself, and all involved in saying no and I trust that there will be other, exciting things ahead if I remain open and true to myself.

If find yourself in a similar situation trust your instincts, they won’t guide you wrong.




Author: thehappystarfish - living mindfully

Louise Jensen is an award winning Naturopathic Kinesiologist, Mindfulness Meditation Coach and Nutritional Therapist, and is certified in many other therapies, including the Mind Detox Method (as featured on Discovery Health) where she graduated from the Mind Detox Academy in record time. Louise has overcome living with a disability and has 13 years experience helping others to heal, and shares her experiences through freelance writing. In 2012, Louise co-created The Happy Starfish, dedicated to celebrating health, happiness and peaceful living. Louise offers Mindfulness Coaching via workshops and Skype and specialises in anxiety, depression and chronic pain.

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